Is it ever unwise to bring a host or hostess gift?
My husband and I have only been officially married for about five months. I'm very fortunate to have wonderful in-laws that I enjoy visiting and spending time with. Each visit is filled with good food, great conversation and fun activities. I always look forward to spending the holidays with them. I was planning on bringing something as a hostess gift: something from the local bakery, a game everyone can play or some small token of my appreciation for their hospitality. My husband feels this gift giving is rude [because] they are family. What are your thoughts?
Thanks,
M
I appreciate where your husband's coming from, since you are close with your husband's family, a gift might not be necessary.
That being said, I also appreciate where you're coming from. If showing up with something in hand makes you feel good, you should bring something.
There's no reason that you bringing a gift has to engender a feeling of reciprocity. There's no reason why you can't bring something that would be a little contribution to the entire holiday weekend. Showing a little forethought, thinking about the people and if there's something you could bring to add to the overall holiday spirit.
You should talk to your husband about how you feel about it and be willing to listen to his perspective. I hope you enjoy your holiday, whatever you decide to do. I'm sure it's going to be a smashing success!
