It is always best to honor the invitations you extend to people and do the same when others extend invitations to you. But is there ever a situation where it is okay to rescind an invitation you've extended?
Dear Lizzie and Dan,
My fiancé and I were gifted NBA tickets over the holiday and the game day was coming up. Unsure about the actual game day, I asked my fiancé when it was and he told me the game was on Thursday night. Unfortunately, I work Thursday nights so it was agreed upon he should ask someone else.
The next morning, he invited a close mutual friend of ours to the game. After he does so, he re-checks the tickets and realizes they are in fact for Friday night, making it a game I could attend. I immediately suggested he text our friend back and let her know about the mix up but he was adamantly against it.
He insisted he had already invited himself with her and he should correct himself with her and see if she could make Friday night's game. I'm completely flabbergasted by his logic. Who is right and who is rude?
Sincerely,
Kicked to the Curb
The answer:
The mistake here obviously wasn't checking the tickets initially. The invitation to your friend was for the wrong night to a game that isn't taking place, so it makes honoring the invitation a bit of a moot point. Since there isn't a game it feels less like your rescinding an invitation.
There is a strong point of etiquette about honoring the invitations that you extend to people. However, if event doesn't exist, you have a bit of a work around. Rather than extend a new invitation for Friday night, your fiancé can own up to the mistake and say that since the tickets were a gift, they'd like to use them with you.
When it comes to who is right and who is rude, both of you are technically a bit right and neither of you are rude. Win-Win!
